She was, by her own account, a lesbian, who had married some decades ago when that was the 'done thing' and had four children.
Now divorced, and content in her new found 'identity', she nevertheless felt that she had 'wasted' half her life.
Interestingly, though, she said (as I recall) that it was her children that had 'outed' her. Subsequent to her divorce, they had apparently observed to her that all her friends were lesbians and asked her if she was one. And when she replied that was indeed the case, their response was along the lines of, "That's fine, we don't have a problem with that."
So far, so cool. However, what doesn't seem to have crossed the minds of her children, at least, was that had she 'come out' earlier - indeed had she lived 'authentically' rather than got married - they would not have been there to tell her how OK they were with the whole thing. Her authenticity would have come at the price of their existence.
Now of course the notion of the 'non-existence' of what palpably is may be simply a matter of philosophical concern. Nevertheless, it did occur to me that one of her children might have said, "Thank goodness you didn't discover this sooner, mum!"
Or maybe they did. Maybe that bit just didn't get mentioned. Or maybe we should be thankful that the unintended consequences of our actions may actually be to the good. Or maybe, just maybe, she was more right in her earlier choices than we might have been led to conclude.
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